The Mistressification of my wife continues!
Normally, we share shopping type chores (when I'm home, anyway). My wife had asked me to post my nephew's present and pick up some stuff form the shop for dinner. She had also asked me to get a new part for her laptop. Well, I managed one out of three (posted nephew's present) and decided to pick up a take-out from our favourite curry house on the way home instead of cooking.
During the exchange of text messags through the day she told me I was going to be punished when I got home for not doing the things she'd asked me to and (I quote) "not priotising mistress."
I got home an hour or so after my wife and she had had a crap day at work. I was told that I was going to get punished for my infractions.
Now, I did email the link to All Mine's recent thoughts on punishment (see previous post) and wondered if she'd read it. Spanking and such like hasn't been part of our repertoire over the last couple of years. In fact, orgasm denial has been about the limit of my wife's mistress/domme activities. Apparently she hadn't read it but just told me after dinner to get myself naked and upstairs on the bed and on all fours.
She came up after a while and unlocked me before digging a whip out of the wardrobe and giving my arse a bit of a flogging over the next fifteen minutes (I think) whilst pointing out my failings.
The slave/domme scenario was spoiled a bit by her (and me) dissolving into fits of giggles ("Are you laughing? Stop laughing at once!" "You laughed first! You stop it!") and her checking if this was a turn on for me or not. She freely admits that it is a bit of a problem to inflict pain on her loved ones. This might be more about the fact that the pain is the main focus when doing this; she has happily clawed me when love-making.
Afterwards, we discussed if she enjoyed it. I got the stock response that she enjoyed the fact that it turned me on but also a brief admission that she derived a "sick pleasure" from it. I suspect this is just a mental block on her admitting she enjoyed it for what it was.
So, we shall see what happens next. Will their be more whippings? Quite possibly. Hopefully, she will get some confidence in what she's doing and be able to dish out punishment for her own satisfaction.
Now, I realise that some people may think I am 'topping from the bottom' here. They are probably right. However, one thing I've learnt here is that nobody else but me is going to teach my wife to be a domme and if I just throw books and information about at her she is likely to feel swamped and fustrated and completely shut down.
One step at a time then.
Have a good weekend - I'm off to watch the rugby in Cardiff. Maybe I will get lucky and England will win the Grand Slam!
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Friday, 15 March 2013
Thursday, 14 March 2013
Quick updates
Apologies one and all for the gap since my last post. I really did want to get these posts done more often
So.
I was out of the country on business in the USA for two weeks and spent the entire time locked up. Well, except for air travel. I currently use a metal cage (The Tube, by Mature Metal - but I don't think they still make them).
I've been back for 4 days and have remained locked up, although it's been great to get some T&D in.
The good lady wife seems to be getting a bit more 'mistress-y' of late as well; she's allowed me to indulge in some body and pussy worship and on the night before last we tested the humbler I bought ages ago. We've also tried out a butt plug (I've used them quite a bit before and been pegged by a previous partner, but this anything to do with the anus is something my wife has been very shy of). The results, as she nudged the tip against my prostate, were pretty good and she seemed to really enjoy the effect it had on me; quite the power trip, she said.
Seeing anal play having a positive effect on somebody might have shifted her perceptions somewhat. We do own a strap-on which, until now has been used for humiliation play on me. This morning, whilst teasing my cock in the shower, she said she quite likes the idea of dragging me away from my work (lots of paperwortk to be dealt with at the moment) and taking me upstairs to fuck me in the arse with it. That said, it may be some time before the black, 8" dildo we use for humilation play (Also known as Deakus), will fit - more training is required. We'll be using something smaller for the time being.
The subject of cuckolding came up yesterday. We were discussing keeping her property :) secure while I was away (she's convinced some of those nice Southern girls in the US will go ga-ga for my English accent) and that she would 'render me genderless' if I strayed. She then asked me what I would do if she slept with somebody. I said it would depend why she did it.
This brought her up rather short. What did I mean?
I explained that if she wanted to just have sex with somebody and that is all it was I wouldn't have a problem with it. I love her and that's all there is to it. If she wants to have sex with somebody else just for sex that she will enjoy, then that's fine. I think I even said I would support that decision. If she sleeps with somebody and there is an emotional attachment, then it would be a problem (Notice how I used 'have sex with' and 'sleep with') I also explained that I understand why she doesn't feel the same about me doing the same and that's fine as well. Basically, I wouldn't want to deny her the chance to experience something I can't provide (An 8+ inch cock or a clitoris spring to mind, although she has not expressed an interest in either). If she has an affair with any kind of emotional attachment, then I think we're in trouble.
Finally, Suzanne, over at All Mine (http://suzanne-allmine.blogspot.co.uk/2013/03/thoughtful-deliberate-domestic.html?zx=441d89bca4070ffa) put up an interesting post about spankings (Thanks Suzanne). I've forwarded this to my wife. Hopefully we'll get a chance to talk about it tonight.
So.
I was out of the country on business in the USA for two weeks and spent the entire time locked up. Well, except for air travel. I currently use a metal cage (The Tube, by Mature Metal - but I don't think they still make them).
I've been back for 4 days and have remained locked up, although it's been great to get some T&D in.
The good lady wife seems to be getting a bit more 'mistress-y' of late as well; she's allowed me to indulge in some body and pussy worship and on the night before last we tested the humbler I bought ages ago. We've also tried out a butt plug (I've used them quite a bit before and been pegged by a previous partner, but this anything to do with the anus is something my wife has been very shy of). The results, as she nudged the tip against my prostate, were pretty good and she seemed to really enjoy the effect it had on me; quite the power trip, she said.
Seeing anal play having a positive effect on somebody might have shifted her perceptions somewhat. We do own a strap-on which, until now has been used for humiliation play on me. This morning, whilst teasing my cock in the shower, she said she quite likes the idea of dragging me away from my work (lots of paperwortk to be dealt with at the moment) and taking me upstairs to fuck me in the arse with it. That said, it may be some time before the black, 8" dildo we use for humilation play (Also known as Deakus), will fit - more training is required. We'll be using something smaller for the time being.
The subject of cuckolding came up yesterday. We were discussing keeping her property :) secure while I was away (she's convinced some of those nice Southern girls in the US will go ga-ga for my English accent) and that she would 'render me genderless' if I strayed. She then asked me what I would do if she slept with somebody. I said it would depend why she did it.
This brought her up rather short. What did I mean?
I explained that if she wanted to just have sex with somebody and that is all it was I wouldn't have a problem with it. I love her and that's all there is to it. If she wants to have sex with somebody else just for sex that she will enjoy, then that's fine. I think I even said I would support that decision. If she sleeps with somebody and there is an emotional attachment, then it would be a problem (Notice how I used 'have sex with' and 'sleep with') I also explained that I understand why she doesn't feel the same about me doing the same and that's fine as well. Basically, I wouldn't want to deny her the chance to experience something I can't provide (An 8+ inch cock or a clitoris spring to mind, although she has not expressed an interest in either). If she has an affair with any kind of emotional attachment, then I think we're in trouble.
Finally, Suzanne, over at All Mine (http://suzanne-allmine.blogspot.co.uk/2013/03/thoughtful-deliberate-domestic.html?zx=441d89bca4070ffa) put up an interesting post about spankings (Thanks Suzanne). I've forwarded this to my wife. Hopefully we'll get a chance to talk about it tonight.
Wednesday, 13 February 2013
Lifestyle labelling
I started writing this blog entry some time ago, but it's still relevant.
Before I started dabbling in male chastity and all that good stuff I had read a lot of stuff about it on the web. Some of it was good/bad/scary/lies/truth/patheric/unbelievable/tragic/funny (delete as applicable).
Without a shadow of a doubt the best source of information was Sarah Jameson's website http://www.malechastityblog.com/ and her book 'Be Careful What you Wish For.'
However, the really entertaining stuff was to be found in places like in the DreamLover website http://www.dreamloverlabs.com/index.php or the FemDom Forum http://femdomforum.com/forum/content.php where you moved from male chastity as a bit of fun to something a bit more off-the-wall and challenging.
I say off-the-wall because as much as the thought of being thoroughly dominated, used and abused by some 6 ft tall glamazon with a penchant for sexual gratification through somebody else's degradation as a lifestyle is a turn on, outside of fantasy land, I just can't see it working terribly well for me.
And anyway, how f**ked up do you have to be to fit a remote controlled electric shock device to some bloke's dick as a 'lifestyle choice'?
And how do you earn a crust when you're supposed to be strapped to the stocks while her and her friends take turns buggering you with an array of increasingly large strap-ons?
The reason I mention this stuff is because there really do seem to be some very confused people out there. Confused as in they automatically think that if you enjoy MC then you must enjoy FemDom. And confused because they seem to think (in a positive or negative manner) that FemDom MUST mean the man being a complete wuss who has his dick locked up almost permanently, hands all decision making, financial responsibility etc to his wife (Mistress?) and her being some sort of vicious bitch.
Now this might work for some people, but I really do have my doubts. The only blog I've seen which seems to be believable is by Celtic Queen, although she seems to have stopped blogging of late (which is a shame).
On a different not, after some time away from chastity ( at least six months) I am now back in my cage. My wife is my keyholder. I think I am probably keener than she is, certainly I am interested in a wider array of kinks, but she seems to be warming up to the idea. Certainly, she's happy to keep me locked up & denied (as I have been since the start of the month).
Before I started dabbling in male chastity and all that good stuff I had read a lot of stuff about it on the web. Some of it was good/bad/scary/lies/truth/patheric/unbelievable/tragic/funny (delete as applicable).
Without a shadow of a doubt the best source of information was Sarah Jameson's website http://www.malechastityblog.com/ and her book 'Be Careful What you Wish For.'
However, the really entertaining stuff was to be found in places like in the DreamLover website http://www.dreamloverlabs.com/index.php or the FemDom Forum http://femdomforum.com/forum/content.php where you moved from male chastity as a bit of fun to something a bit more off-the-wall and challenging.
I say off-the-wall because as much as the thought of being thoroughly dominated, used and abused by some 6 ft tall glamazon with a penchant for sexual gratification through somebody else's degradation as a lifestyle is a turn on, outside of fantasy land, I just can't see it working terribly well for me.
And anyway, how f**ked up do you have to be to fit a remote controlled electric shock device to some bloke's dick as a 'lifestyle choice'?
And how do you earn a crust when you're supposed to be strapped to the stocks while her and her friends take turns buggering you with an array of increasingly large strap-ons?
The reason I mention this stuff is because there really do seem to be some very confused people out there. Confused as in they automatically think that if you enjoy MC then you must enjoy FemDom. And confused because they seem to think (in a positive or negative manner) that FemDom MUST mean the man being a complete wuss who has his dick locked up almost permanently, hands all decision making, financial responsibility etc to his wife (Mistress?) and her being some sort of vicious bitch.
Now this might work for some people, but I really do have my doubts. The only blog I've seen which seems to be believable is by Celtic Queen, although she seems to have stopped blogging of late (which is a shame).
On a different not, after some time away from chastity ( at least six months) I am now back in my cage. My wife is my keyholder. I think I am probably keener than she is, certainly I am interested in a wider array of kinks, but she seems to be warming up to the idea. Certainly, she's happy to keep me locked up & denied (as I have been since the start of the month).
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