Wednesday 27 March 2013

Accidental ruined orgasm

We've just got back from a five day holiday in South East Asia. The weather was great and, although I wasn't in lock up (too warm & I was with Mistress pretty much 24/7), I wasn't going to be allowed an orgasm.
It was a very busy five days with a lot of partying thrown in. We did have time for a bit of fooling around in the shower at the start of the day and a bit of oral worship of Mistress, but that was about it.
We got back home yesterday, fairly jet lagged and indulged in some fooling around. This involved me being edge several times in the shower. By this time it had been at least six weeks since I had an orgasm; there was precum dribbling from my cock all over the place and on at least one edging a bit of cum leaked out. Mistress hasn't made me eat it yet, although I've mentioned it. She just said she wasn't 'there' yet. By this I took here to mean she hasn't got that into being a domme that she's comfortable making me do that. We haven't discussed it any further, a conversation for a later date, perhaps.
After all the shower-based teasing we moved to the bedroom where I was told to rub moisturiser into her legs. Mistress does have very long and slim legs, so I'm quite happy to be doing this!
After that, we went for some oral body worship - missing all over. Eventually I made my way so by face was over her pussy, side ways on a after kissing around her pussy started teasing her lightly with the tip of my tongue. This resulted in her getting very wet indeed and it wasn't long before I was getting suited up for some proper sex form the first time in what seemed like ages.
Mistress had me lie it the centre of the bed and straddled me before lowering her pussy onto my cock. It felt great. After riding me to her first orgasm she began to really grind down on me, gyrating her hips and using one hand to muffle me, sliding several fingers into my mouth. I love this - it is so hot. Some dirty talk followed, calling me her fuckstick, how she'd like to tie me to a chair and make me watch as she tucked herself using her vibrator before making me lick it clean.
More sex in different positions followed with me getting very close to cumming. I wanted to do it face to face and that's when it all went wrong; just as I was getting to the point of no return I caught her slightly wrong and she pulled away, pushing me out and I came. One ruined orgasm. Fuck.
And that was it. She had a nap. There was some teasing this morning before lock up and a hint of some more action tonight but I've pretty much been told that there will be no orgasms for me.

Finally - welcome to Cruel Dama!

Friday 15 March 2013

Whipping boy

The Mistressification of my wife continues!
Normally, we share shopping type chores (when I'm home, anyway). My wife had asked me to post my nephew's present and pick up some stuff form the shop for dinner. She had also asked me to get a new part for her laptop. Well, I managed one out of three (posted nephew's present) and decided to pick up a take-out from our favourite curry house on the way home instead of cooking.
During the exchange of text messags through the day she told me I was going to be punished when I got home for not doing the things she'd asked me to and (I quote) "not priotising mistress."
I got home an hour or so after my wife and she had had a crap day at work. I was told that I was going to get punished for my infractions.
Now, I did email the link to All Mine's recent thoughts on punishment (see previous post) and wondered if she'd read it. Spanking and such like hasn't been part of our repertoire over the last couple of years. In fact, orgasm denial has been about the limit of my wife's mistress/domme activities. Apparently she hadn't read it but just told me after dinner to get myself naked and upstairs on the bed and on all fours.
She came up after a while and unlocked me before digging a whip out of the wardrobe and giving my arse a bit of a flogging over the next fifteen minutes (I think) whilst pointing out my failings.
The slave/domme scenario was spoiled a bit by her (and me) dissolving into fits of giggles ("Are you laughing? Stop laughing at once!" "You laughed first! You stop it!") and her checking if this was a turn on for me or not. She freely admits that it is a bit of a problem to inflict pain on her loved ones. This might be more about the fact that the pain is the main focus when doing this; she has happily clawed me when love-making.
Afterwards, we discussed if she enjoyed it. I got the stock response that she enjoyed the fact that it turned me on but also a brief admission that she derived a "sick pleasure" from it. I suspect this is just a mental block on her admitting she enjoyed it for what it was.
So, we shall see what happens next. Will their be more whippings? Quite possibly. Hopefully, she will get some confidence in what she's doing and be able to dish out punishment for her own satisfaction.
Now, I realise that some people may think I am 'topping from the bottom' here. They are probably right. However, one thing I've learnt here is that nobody else but me is going to teach my wife to be a domme and if I just throw books and information about at her she is likely to feel swamped and fustrated and completely shut down.
One step at a time then.
Have a good weekend - I'm off to watch the rugby in Cardiff. Maybe I will get lucky and England will win the Grand Slam!

Thursday 14 March 2013

Quick updates

Apologies one and all for the gap since my last post. I really did want to get these posts done more often

So.
I was out of the country on business in the USA for two weeks and spent the entire time locked up. Well, except for air travel. I currently use a metal cage (The Tube, by Mature Metal - but I don't think they still make them).

I've been back for 4 days and have remained locked up, although it's been great to get some T&D in.
The good lady wife seems to be getting a bit more 'mistress-y' of late as well; she's allowed me to indulge in some body and pussy worship and on the night before last we tested the humbler I bought ages ago. We've also tried out a butt plug (I've used them quite a bit before and been pegged by a previous partner, but this anything to do with the anus is something my wife has been very shy of). The results, as she nudged the tip against my prostate, were pretty good and she seemed to really enjoy the effect it had on me; quite the power trip, she said.

Seeing anal play having a positive effect on somebody might have shifted her perceptions somewhat. We do own a strap-on which, until now has been used for humiliation play on me. This morning, whilst teasing my cock in the shower, she said she quite likes the idea of dragging me away from my work (lots of paperwortk to be dealt with at the moment) and taking me upstairs to fuck me in the arse with it. That said, it may be some time before the black, 8" dildo we use for humilation play (Also known as Deakus), will fit - more training is required. We'll be using something smaller for the time being.

The subject of cuckolding came up yesterday. We were discussing keeping her property :) secure while I was away (she's convinced some of those nice Southern girls in the US will go ga-ga for my English accent) and that she would 'render me genderless' if I strayed. She then asked me what I would do if she slept with somebody. I said it would depend why she did it.
This brought her up rather short. What did I mean?
I explained that if she wanted to just have sex with somebody and that is all it was I wouldn't have a problem with it. I love her and that's all there is to it. If she wants to have sex with somebody else just for sex that she will enjoy, then that's fine. I think I even said I would support that decision. If she sleeps with somebody and there is an emotional attachment, then it would be a problem (Notice how I used 'have sex with' and 'sleep with') I also explained that I understand why she doesn't feel the same about me doing the same and that's fine as well. Basically, I wouldn't want to deny her the chance to experience something I can't provide (An 8+ inch cock or a clitoris spring to mind, although she has not expressed an interest in either). If she has an affair with any kind of emotional attachment, then I think we're in trouble.

Finally, Suzanne, over at All Mine (http://suzanne-allmine.blogspot.co.uk/2013/03/thoughtful-deliberate-domestic.html?zx=441d89bca4070ffa) put up an interesting post about spankings (Thanks Suzanne). I've forwarded this to my wife. Hopefully we'll get a chance to talk about it tonight.

Wednesday 13 February 2013

New cage

Since I've made the decision to get back into male chastity I've ordered a new cage:

http://www.madame-dura.de/product_info.php?info=p90_lancelot-classic-open-chastity-device.html

Until now, I've used rigid units like the CB6000S and Mature Metal's Watchful Mistress and Tube.

I found I got pull out with the CB6000S and the anti-withdrawal fittings for both that model and the Watchful Mistress hurt like hell.

The Watchfull Mistress also caused abrasions after very short period.

The Tube has been pretty good - no pull out. But it is rigid and pretty obvious if I wear lightweight or snug trousers.

Hopefully, because it is flexible, these problems should be less of an issue with the Lancelot. And I hope to be able to sleep in it - getting closer to 24/7 chastity!

Lifestyle labelling

I started writing this blog entry some time ago, but it's still relevant.

Before I started dabbling in male chastity and all that good stuff I had read a lot of stuff about it on the web. Some of it was good/bad/scary/lies/truth/patheric/unbelievable/tragic/funny (delete as applicable).

Without a shadow of a doubt the best source of information was Sarah Jameson's website http://www.malechastityblog.com/ and her book 'Be Careful What you Wish For.'

However, the really entertaining stuff was to be found in places like in the DreamLover website http://www.dreamloverlabs.com/index.php or the FemDom Forum http://femdomforum.com/forum/content.php where you moved from male chastity as a bit of fun to something a bit more off-the-wall and challenging.

I say off-the-wall because as much as the thought of being thoroughly dominated, used and abused by some 6 ft tall glamazon with a penchant for sexual gratification through somebody else's degradation as a lifestyle is a turn on, outside of fantasy land, I just can't see it working terribly well for me.

And anyway, how f**ked up do you have to be to fit a remote controlled electric shock device to some bloke's dick as a 'lifestyle choice'?

And how do you earn a crust when you're supposed to be strapped to the stocks while her and her friends take turns buggering you with an array of increasingly large strap-ons?

The reason I mention this stuff is because there really do seem to be some very confused people out there. Confused as in they automatically think that if you enjoy MC then you must enjoy FemDom. And confused because they seem to think (in a positive or negative manner) that FemDom MUST mean the man being a complete wuss who has his dick locked up almost permanently, hands all decision making, financial responsibility etc to his wife (Mistress?) and her being some sort of vicious bitch.

Now this might work for some people, but I really do have my doubts. The only blog I've seen which seems to be believable is by Celtic Queen, although she seems to have stopped blogging of late (which is a shame).

On a different not, after some time away from chastity ( at least six months) I am now back in my cage. My wife is my keyholder. I think I am probably keener than she is, certainly I am interested in a wider array of kinks, but she seems to be warming up to the idea. Certainly, she's happy to keep me locked up & denied (as I have been since the start of the month).